The Marvelous Wonders and Importance of Masturbation

Masturbation is the manual stimulation of the female or male sex organs performed by oneself or another person, usually to the point of orgasm, but not always. In males masturbation usually ends with ejaculation, in which the liquid that contains sperm cells, semen, is ejected from the penis.

As babies we were discouraged from exploring our bodies sexually and little exploring hands were often slapped away with a "NO no." Although this did not stop children from exploring their bodies, it may have caused many girls to grow up feeling ashamed to do so. They may feel it's not acceptable for them to tell their partners what makes them feel good and what doesn't feel good. Many may not even know what feels good because they never explored their bodies to find out. Many little boys probably masturbated in a hurry so as not to get caught and later in life suffer from premature ejaculation. There are also many people who find themselves filled with guilt and shame after masturbation.

Masturbation Myths

There were tons of stories about all the really bad things that would happen if one were to participate in this self pleasing sexual act such as:

• you'll go bald - hair loss is not affected by it.
• you'll go crazy - psychosis has nothing to do it.
• you'll go blind - loss of sight has nothing to do with self pleasure.
• you'll grow hair in weird places such as your palms or the bottom of feet.
• only lonely losers do it - many people in very healthy sexual relationships masturbate alone or with their partner. Also according to some sex experts people who self pleasure often function much better doing sex with a partner because they know their bodies and knows what makes them feel good and can relay this to their partners.
• you'll get acne - if you are prone to acne, you'll get it whether you self pleasure or not.
• people in relationships or married don't masturbate - many couples participate in this sex act together, either alone or in front of each other. Many people find this very erotic.
• it'll stunt your growth.
• you'll never be able to have children - if this were true, there wouldn't be very many people in the world today.

Benefits of Masturbation

It is said that self pleasuring oneself can help with:

• relieving stress.
• relieve menstrual cramps.
• insomnia.
• stimulate the immune system to help build up resistance to common infections.
• release mood elevating hormones.
• reduce embarrassing spontaneous erections for teen males.
• reduce the number of unwanted wet dreams for young men.

Masturbation is the most common sexual practice world-wide (and the safest) while intercourse is the second most common. Some people are unable to have an orgasm with their partner and can only reach climax through self stimulation. Which in turn can help them show their partners what makes them feel good, helping them achieve climax.

Masturbation is a perfectly healthy fun and safe way to express and explore your sexuality and to release sexual tension. It is in fact the safest form of sex you can practice without the fear or risk of pregnancy or STD.

According to the Kinsey Institute, 92% of man and 62% of women say they have self pleasured themselves. In fact, according to many single women it is their most important sexual outlet.

It is however not easy to establish the validity of a survey on sexuality and sexual behavior because the survey takers will often give answers that they believe fall into the norm of society.

There will always be people who will make religious or moral arguments against masturbation, believing that it is sinful to perform such sexual gratification or to waste seeds.

Sex experts say as long as it is not controlling your life and you're not neglecting friends and family or skipping work or other important duties, there is nothing wrong with masturbating. If you find that you're spending to much time doing it, then you may want to stop and take it easy until you find out why you're spending so much time masturbating. People can become obsessed with just about anything.

Masturbations is a very normal and healthy way to receive sexual satisfaction, relieve stress and really get to know your body.

Use good common sense. If you're sore from spending way too much time pleasuring yourself, lay off for sometime. To avoid getting irritated skin, which is not uncommon, use plenty of water soluble lubrication such as Astroglide or Wet. If you find that the irritation does not heal, don't be shy, see your health care provider. And don't forget to lube, whether you're a guy using his hand or a sleeve or a women using a vibrator or dildo.

If you have yet to touch yourself, go ahead and try it. Discover yourself sexually and explore the many wonderful pleasures of your body. The worst thing to happen is you may not like it. The best is that you may discover a whole new part of you that you never knew existed, a wonderful way to relieve stress, a great sexual tension reliever and tons of very satisfying and wonderful sexual pleasures.

Adding Sex Toys

Whether you're new to masturbating or an old pro, adding a bit of variety can add lots of exciting pleasure. Try adding lubrication, and if you already use a lube try a different one. Although most men use some form of lubrication during masturbation, very few women have ever tried lubrication and a bit of moisture can add a lot to the whole experience.

In turn, many women have tried dildos. vibrators, and clitoral stimulator's while masturbating, but very few men have tried sleeves or penis pumps which can be a lot more fun than just a bare hand. Whether you're new to self pleasure or you're a pro at self love, sit back, relax, and add a sex toy or lubrication for a more pleasurable and enjoyable solo sex experience.

Getting to know your body

Masturbating can be much more pleasing if you touch yourself in different ways. Try rubbing your whole body, stomach, thighs, nipples. Pinch the tips of your nipples and stroke between your legs. Take your time and get to know what feels good to your body.

Things that can make self love more enjoyable

Self pleasure, just like sexual intercourse can be much more enjoyable if you experiment by adding other things:

• use a lubrication if you never have
• rub yourself with hands that are covered in oil or cream
• run a feather lightly over your body
• try running different materials over your body such as silk or fur
• rub yourself with a body brush or damp hot or cold sponge

Mutual Masturbation and Body Rubbing Exploration

After you've explored the pleasures of your body through
self masturbation, you may want to include your partner.
Ask your partner what makes them feel good and to let you perform it on them or have your partner masturbate you. Some people also find it very arousing to watch their partner masturbate themselves and it's a wonderful intimate way to find out how to please each other.

Reciprocal masturbation and body rubbing not only feel great it is a very intimate and pleasurable time spent with your partner. Non-penetrative sex has a variety of advantages, there is no risk of pregnancy or STD. The pressure to perform is also reduced because one does not have to worry about premature ejaculation or losing an erection. Both of which can mean the end of sex for a while. If you have an orgasm so what, you just continue masturbating and body rubbing your partner. If an erection is lost, so what. Continue body rubbing with your hands and body and continue to stroke the genitals until the erection returns.Having good masturbation and body massaging skills can make one really hot passionate time.

Challenge each other not to have penetrative sex and just to masturbate and rub each other down. Try adding this to your mutual masturbation exploration:

• use your body to rub against theirs
• use a damp hot or cold sponge
• put an ice cube in your mouth and rub it over their body
• use a feather, silk scarf or fur to rub on your partner
• stoke them just to the point of climax and stop. Do this a few time and when they do come it should be very intense
• add foods to your masturbation play with your partner

Have fun and explore masturbation with your partner and remember be kind to each other. Don't laugh at or criticize your partners sexual suggestion, you can make them feel insecure and not share their sexual desires with you. If you're not comfortable with something, say so. Talk about
it further with your partner and explain what it is you're
not comfortable with. Maybe something can be changed or it can be do another way. And don't ever force someone to
do something they don't want to do.

Mutual masturbation and body rubbing exploration should
be a wonderful fun and pleasurable time spent together. If
you or your partner are uncomfortable doing something, it will greatly diminish the wonderful pleasure of this lovely sex
act.

Want some tips and ideas? Have a look at Female Masturbation or Male Masturbation for more in depth information on 'how to masturbate.'

Some very useless Information

Masterbation, spelled with an "e" instead of a "u" is so very often used today, it's sometimes considered a slang variation rather than a misspelling. Other common misspellings:

• masterbaiting
• master bate (with a space)
• masturbaton

There are tons of slang words for self love, here are just a very few:

• jilling Off - jill off(female)
• brushing the beaver(female)
• jerking off - jerk off(male)
• jacking Off(male)
• spanking the monkey(male)
• wanking off(male)

Masturbation is a perfectly healthy sexual activity that allows one to discover how their body will respond to sexual stimulation.

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